A Sacred Place

            I was thinking and feeling she was going to give me a hug in front of the library saying goodbye so I moved a bit forward and bent down ready to give and receive a warm and friendly hug. God forbidden, I was wrong this time. Instead of a hug, this nice lady gave me a kiss on my cheek then hugged me saying goodbye. Waving our goodbyes, I told her it’s my pleasure to serve her, to serve the public. She said thank you and appreciated what the public library did for the communities, and the users. Smiling, I turned my back leaving the nice and inviting weather behind me and thinking what a nice patron she is and how nice the weather was. It’s a double take for me.

            Yesterday, I got a flying kiss from a patron who is also a member of the WOW Reading Club. Nowadays, more and more patrons told me and shared how they felt about this library. “This library is different from the other public libraries I visited.” “Why, and how?” I asked. “Because the staff are friendlier; they greet us with smiles and treat me really nice.” Whenever I had such conversations and heard the positive feedback from patrons I felt so honored and happy able to reach to people with education, knowledge, and skills I have acquired over the years from my family life, schooling, and interactions with a variety of people.

            Over and over, again and again, I thanked to the customers and patrons for they place their trust on us, staff of the library. They might not know how hard we have worked under different challenging circumstances and difficult situations and conditions; it’s a combination of challenges of physical, mental, and spiritual. They might not know the primary reason I like to work in a public library is because it’s a place holding promising hope, future dreams, and a vault for happiness. Yes, happiness. For I ran into my happiness in the library almost everyday. How?

            First of all, I felt honored to serve the people who walked in the library. They trust me enough to try me, to allow me to find ways to help them meet their needs. For instance, this lady was frustrated because she couldn’t print out what she needed from her email using the desktop the library owns. When all methods I have known failed me, I tried my last resort. And it worked. The moment I saw the form I felt my heart skipped a beat. The immediate joy overwhelmed me as if I was the person in need of this piece of paper. I came to the lady with the paper hidden behind me. “You do owe me a cup of coffee, Ma’am. Here you are.” Her change was spontaneous at the sight of the printout. “Ma’am, hardly did I give up too soon. You have to, at least, give me a try.” Still she told me her concerns about the public computers telling me how frustrating the situation would become. I assured her I would be glad to assist her whenever she comes. “But, are you here everyday? Do you work on Saturdays?” “Yes, and yes to both of your questions” She left the building with a smile. Give me a chance, don’t give up too soon on me or yourself.

            Secondly, it’s the patrons who made me a better person. Their degree of satisfaction is a pivot telling me how I could make changes to adjust and adapt to fit in the public environment, what I could do to meet different requests and needs, and where I could get help to meet the excellence and sense of achievement I have been working for. We, human beings, are similar to the seasons: there are warmth, heat, coolness, and coldness. People’s behaviors differ and the emotions and feelings change over the years based upon individual’s life experiences and personal expectations from life. It seems so complicated, full of challenges, and so hard to control or even conquer. But there is one thing one could have in control: to be yourself. You are the only one person makes the choices, puts the heart on things matters to you, and acts on the choices you select. Thanks to patrons and people in the library, I have grown and learned a lot.

            Though I have been physically exhausted and challenged, I am mentally and spiritually happy and satisfied. Everyday I went back home with sense of achievement; I was proud of what I have done at work for I did give my best to a place I love and care so much. I gave and did my best. Books and other items won’t stop coming in; they are means I make a living. Each book is heavy for it might answer someone’s questions and save a soul. Books and habit of reading is a person’s best friend; they are loyal and always there ready to assist and answer a person’s requests and hunger for answers or pique more questions to help a person grow, develop, and glow. And library is the place holding the priceless values and treasure.

            The public library is a sacred place. People and books are visible; they are there for the public to access and use. It’s the invisible and unseen that holy to me: the hidden knowledge waiting for users to browse, search, study, and digest, the trust the patrons have on the staff, and the will and commitment from the staff to assist and serve. The spirit of giving is what glues all the things together. The will to give is the value I cherish and see in a person.

The library is a place I call home. A sacred place indeed!

            

Oslo and Heather

            I met a new friend today; his name is Oslo. Though I saw him many times at the library never did I have the chance to introduce myself or say hello to him. Something magical must be loitering in the library for out of no blue I stopped by the table, found the courage, knelt down, and said hi to this new, cute friend. Oslo is nine months old and he is a dog with shiny a black fur coat. I knew he must be a guide dog for there is this special collar around his neck and he is always leashed whenever he is in the library.

            Heather is the name of Oslo’s trainer. From the beginning I thought this young lady is some kind of tutor or a teacher for she is always with some kid working at a table in the house. Distracted by friendly and playful Oslo I forgot to ask Heather. Heather is a volunteer dog trainer. She told me there will be another 5 to 6 months for Oslo ready for next training. Then Oslo will become a trained guide dog for the blind. I gained plenty of messages and knowledge from the conversation I had with Ms. Heather. There are dog raisers, volunteer trainers, and well raised and trained dogs served for the disadvantaged people. This bright side of human beings and creatures is the reason keeping me happily working in the library. Benevolent acts and generous and giving hearts are always in need and their silent yet powerful and positive forces bring more best out of people.

            A dog, systematically and skillfully trained, can make a poor person live in richer condition and status. If an animal, like a dog, can give a hand to the poor, we, as the human beings, are surely capable of helping our own fellow beings. Working in the public library offers me immense opportunity to exercise the lesson called humanity on people around me. They are my coworkers, supervisors, patrons, and friends.

            Positive thinking helps me overcome threats from negative forces. Instead of being dragged down or feeling sad I have pity on people with negative aura. Seeing and observing with my own eyes and heart, I have been learning how to hear and listen to people. Sometimes I would walk a patron to the door exchanging goodbyes even when this is my first time meeting this person. On the other hand, there are others whom I have known for quite sometimes and I still didn’t know who they are. Is it instinct or something else driving me to behave certain way to different people?

            Life is beautiful for there are so many mysteries to meet, divide, and conquer. Thanks to people, known or unknown, my life is like cooking a special dish with a variety of materials, ingredients, and spices. Yesterday I might have something bitter, today something cold and tasted funny, who knows what’s waiting for me tomorrow? If something bad happens it’s my own choice not to savor it. Forget about it, let it pass and move on. If something good takes place it’s also my choice to share it with my friends and family and register it to my memory. Choice is optional for you are the one to make the decision which side you will take.

            Spicy, warm, or very green on your plate today? You decide!  

November Reading Meeting

            Today’s monthly meeting was a long and warm one. Everyone welcomed Sherri back and asked about her whereabouts and status. It’s family gathering thing that kept her away and occupied. Though she couldn’t and didn’t finish her book she still felt she had to come to see her friends. Universal expression was shown on everyone’s face when Sherri said she missed us. It’s a warm and sweet touch that Sherri brought in today at the meeting. Thank you, Sherri.

            “How is Fiona?” It’s a question that everyone was in need of an answer. Fiona, you are missed. We truly hope that the family you support and help will recover and be back to its norm.

            First of all, I have to say that Ruby did a wonderful job this past month. Her persistent diligence and consistent determination and commitment truly touched everyone. Sherri shook her head appraising Ruby and complimented her by saying “If everyone works as hard as you are, there is no difficulty or obstacle to tackle the barrier of any foreign language. Impressive!” Encouragement comes from peers is especially appreciated for members stand at the same side and know each other better than anyone else.

            Ruby kept on reading the Rainbow Fairies Series. She considers herself a beginner at reading. This Fairies series serve as her stepping stone for another series: Gecko & Sticky. By reading a series, according to Ruby, she is able to build her own bank of vocabulary and repetitive phrases and sentences that she found helpful and useful at daily life. Simplicity is her favorite for it’s an easy way to self-express: easy, convenient, and straightforward. Asked if she found something interesting at the names the author used for her series Ruby said she did finding it interesting that the author matched the Fairies’ names to visualize the meaning of the rainbow colors. For example, Sunny is the name for Yellow fairy and Ruby for Red fairy. Interesting discovery, one has to say.

            “The Lost Wife” by Alyson Richman was Sherri’s choice of the month. The background of this romance story was due back to the World War II. A young couple just got married right before the husband and his whole family decided to escape the Europe and sail to the promising land-USA. The wife couldn’t have the heart to leave her family behind so she stayed where she was though she was pregnant with his child who later was miscarried.

            Sixty years passed and they met again-at a wedding of their own grandchildren; he remarried and she got a child result of a sad rape happened at the concentration camp in which she and her family were kept during the wartime. They didn’t expect to see each other for they thought the other was killed at that difficult time. He was retired OB doctor. They were haunted by ghosts for they had lived in the same neighborhood and might have run into each other in the passing years. Assumed each was dead they thought destiny tricked them and tested their love for each other. Though they didn’t tell or share how much they reserved their love for each other, their hearts were locked with their keys lost in the war.

            Sherri didn’t finish the book, yet. Everyone at the meeting couldn’t wait to hear the “happy” ending of the couple. Well, at least, I, personally, wish there be a good ending for this touching love story taken place at a harsh and difficult time of the human history. “One should feel blessed and good luck comparing small things we have faced to the big issues in real life.” Sherri shared her point of view and feeling gotten from reading this book. In the book the lost wife was an art teacher. She would risk her life to confiscate available chalks or crayons for the small children to enjoy the beauty in art. To Sherri, the beauty of art somehow would help ease intensity of pain inflicted by cruelty and misery in a person’s life.

            The following was composed by Abby who hosted the meeting after 1 pm.

            For this week, Lily read one of the Jewel Fairies books by Daisy Meadows. She doesn’t remember which one as there are too many to remember. After which we discussed vocabulary words gleaned from the Fairies books. Interestingly, most were either informal terms, or some sort of adjective. “Tingling” is a hard word to explain in English.

The longest topic we discussed was the names for collective groups of animals. Most animals could be referred to as a “herd” (of cattle), but there are some animals that have multiple references, or names that no one knows about. Most of us know about a “school of fish”, but how many people know that a group of whales is a “pod”? This one really had Ruby stumped for a while. I have to admit that I have never heard of or used the ones that I found on a four page list obtained from Google.

Sherry brought her “adopted” daughter, who brought her daughter for a visit. We all enjoyed the cake, the almond brittle and the cookies that Mei-Wan brought. Unfortunately, Mei-Wan had to return to the reference desk at that time, so I ate hers for her. It was all delicious. (By Abby)

Appreciation goes to Lily and Ruby; they brought a round cake to share with members. Jennifer, our pretty and attractive CSR, was invited to join the meeting for a short stay. Thank you, Jennifer.

Next Tea time will be held next Wednesday, 12-05, 2012, at 12 pm in the library.

See you all soon!

Ruby’s Read2/November

Sunny the Yellow Fairy/Meadows, Daisy

            The Rainbow Fairies Ruby and Amber were already safe in the pot at the end of the rainbow, Rachel and Kristy started off their next adventure.

            When they followed the bubbling stream for finding the third fairy-Sunny, a chill, breeze ruffled Kristy’s hair, she noticed that some of the leaves were turning brown, even though it wasn’t autumn. Strange weather could only mean one thing, “Jack Frost’s goblins are still around.” Whenever the goblins were nearby, everything turned frosty and cold. All at once, a small group of bees came straight toward them, they ran into a little cottage. In there, they met an old lady who is a beekeeper, she treated them same of her honey. The two girls thought it was the most delicious they have ever tasted, and wondered whether Sunny is nearby or not. One hive stood beneath an apple tree along where just as they guessed the third fairy was in it!!

            The rainbow fairy Sunny was dripped with honey, the girls took her away for cleaning in hurry, and left Sunny’s wand in the little cottage. When they went back to search the wand, one of the goblins was holding it in his hand (OMG!) After a violent fighting, Sunny finally took back her wand. The girls sent Sunny to meet Ruby and Amber, and kept on their next journey.

Ruby’s Read1/November

Amber the Orange Fairy/Meadows, Daisy

            There were two girls, Rachel and Kristy, who went to Rainspell Island on vacation with their family. They found a magic place-FairyLand, where the Rainbow Fairies live. But now, the Fairyland is suffering a disaster from the evil guys’ spell. It becomes a cold and gray world since seven rainbow fairies were sent away from Fairyland. Rachel and Kristy had promised the king and queen of Fairyland that they would help them to find out the Rainbow fairies.

            After finding the first Rainbow Fairy-Ruby, they started to search for the second one-Amber (the Orange Fairy). While they took a walk on the beach, they saw a lot of sparkling things such like a wrapper from a chocolate bar, or a little brown crab, not the Fairy that they wanted to find out. So they were very disappointed. Then they spotted a large scallop shell which was a light peach color with orange streaks, the Orange Fairy, Amber, was trapped inside.

            The two little girls rescued Amber from the shell by one of the magic bags the Fairy Queen gave them, and led Amber to meet Ruby who hidden in a pot. There was a friend came from the Fairyland, he is a talking frog whose missions are looking after the Rainbow Fairies and keeping their safe. While Ruby and Amber were exciting to meet each other again, the evil guy-Jack Frost’s goblins were close by. The goblins brought frozen wind everywhere, the girls helped the fairies evade, and went to find out the other fairies.

November Read/3

Title: Good Boss, Bad Boss: How to Be the Best…and Learn from the Worst

Author: Sutton, Robert I.

Subjects: Supervision of employees; Managing your boss

Call Number: 658.409 S967G 2010

ISBN: 9780446556088

Page Numbers: 308 p

Book Description:

            If you are the boss, are you a good one? How can you keep honing your skills-and stir your people to give their all and be proud to work for you? Are you in tune with how your words and deeds (and those little looks on your face) affect your followers? What do they really think of you-are you aware of how they see you, or do you live in a fool’s paradise? If they had a choice, would they continue to work for you?

            Dr. Sutton weaves together real-life case studies and pertinent behavioral science research to deliver a precise and sometimes startling account of what the best bosses do. Good Boss, Bad Boss delivers a definitive manifesto for anyone who has ever been elevated to a position of authority-and a blueprint of salvation for those who suffer because their bosses just don’t seem to get it (quoted from inside the book’s jacket).

My Read:

            “It’s not about you.” This is an advice from Jack Welch and Robert Joss and other authors in the field of management and leadership. It implores and discourages managers and leaders from falling prey to their most selfish and destructive instincts (Sutton, p245). I read other leadership books that hold the similar suggestion and warning. In Sutton’s book it stated “It’s all about you.” There are these two contradictions of ideas on management and leadership. To me, both ideas and thoughts are solid and justified correct. It comes from different motivations and applications.

            “It’s not about you.” This serves as friendly warning and benign advice for bosses not to be egotistical, selfish, overbearing or other self-obsessed hunger of authority. If there is no followers how could a person define or consider him/herself a leader? It’s people who matter; their loyalty and will to follow and be led are the core values of a good boss.

            “It’s all about you.” It also makes sense for management and leadership, back to its core and essence, that both are all about self-growth and self-awareness. Able to be a good boss, a person has to dedicate and commit to making efforts and making a difference in people’s lives. Power and authority could fool a person; they prey on weak souls whose tunnel vision and narrow mind set originated from greed and thirst for control and status. Ambition is good if the motivation and aspiration are initiated from altruism combined with self-actualization. To live to the fullest, a person aims higher going beyond the horizon. As one sets off for excellence and challenges the higher standards, the same person is willing to share acquired skills, experiences, and knowledge with people around.    

            A great boss is one who grows people with potentials and promising talents. A great manager is one who encourages his/her staff to walk out their comfort zone and meet goals they don’t think they could match. A great leader is one who not only leads his/her followers with a well-defined vision s/he leads with her/his heart and soul.

            At the end of the book the author asked a good question: “Are you in tune with what it feels like to work for you?” Asking questions is a sure and inspiring way for self-growth and self-awareness. This question reminds me of a good salesperson. In my view and definition of a good salesperson is a person who not only is able to sell s/he is capable of reselling again and again. It’s a marathon, not a sprint. The course of life is a marathon; one has to equip oneself with gears plus assistance from other people. One’s life is comprised of teamwork; assistance and aid from others come as one helps oneself and tries one’s best.

            God would help if one is willing to try first. The subtitle: Learn from the Worst sounds so true. The bad bosses serve as mirrors and sounding warning. Bad influence could become a tool and leverage if one is sure his/her motivation and ambition are not all about self-gain or just self-fulfillment. When savoring a piece of bread don’t forget to share, at least, the crumbs.

            To be good or become bad, it’s a choice away.

           

References:

The No Asshole Rule—Robert Sutton

Leadership Is an Art—Max DePree

Up the Organization—Robert Townsend

“Corner Office: Fitting In, and Rising to the Top”—Adam Bryant—http://wwwnytimes.com/2009/09/20/business/20corner.html?_r=3&scp=2&sq=scarf%20CEO&st=cse

“They Watch Everything You Do”—Kelley Eskridge--http://www.humansatwork.com/they-watch-everything-you-do/

Sense of Achievement

            “Are you ok?”

“Physically, I am exhausted. Mentally? I am excited and I enjoy the challenge.”

This was a conversation I had with a dear and close friend who just changed his career from one field to another that was new to him at the age of 53. How challenging and demanding is the new job? At and from the second week of his assignment he had to stay up late in his office after 11 pm and worked on Saturdays or Sundays. It seemed a norm for him to skip lunches and stay late working nonstop, even on weekends. One could tell from his voice that he was pooped and fatigued. Yet, his eyes, though puffed with big black bags under, were sharp and bright with expectations as if they were pondering upon some unsolved mysteries.

Do you have a friend like this? Or are you such a person? If you think this kind of person is a fool, you are right. But, in my eyes, they are happy fools. Happiness can’t be bought or borrowed; one has to understand how happiness is created or where it comes from to truly feel and enjoy it.

Yesterday, at lunch, another dear friend of mine told me that money can’t buy everything; it’s simply a tool. Most of people pursue their dreams to make more money or to generate fortune as if numbers and figures at one’s bank account(s) are goals and possessions towards happiness, joy, and wonderland. But is it true? How many sad news articles did you read from the mass media about wealthy people’s tragedies? Fame and power were acquired and gained. But there was no one to teach you what happiness really feels like. You might own the tool but do you know how to apply or use it?

When my close friend told me though his body was tired he was not mentally tired I could fully understand what he meant. I have been doing the same thing at work. The first day I worked in the library I called home and told my family that I felt dizzy and nauseate. No one at work told me which section or area was my responsibility so, after I assessed the shelves I took the 900’s books, fully loaded them onto a big truck with three layers. I shelved nonstop and I got tired; it’s my first job and first day at work. Do you know why I took the 900’s area? Because that area held the most books; the shelves were packed and crowded. Years later, I came to understand the reason why I did that.

People tend to take the easier and less difficult tasks at work. It seems to make sense for if there is no commission, bonus, benefit or advantage offered or provided why should a person be willing or voluntary to undertake a heavier or complicated job? Only a fool or stupid would do such thing, right? Actually they are not fool; they are happy giving souls. In addition, to me, it’s an ability to take over tasks that no one enjoys or likes doing. An ability that drives a person to bring out his/her best and potential, to meet his/her goals, and to earn a sense of achievement, a feeling and sensation gained through strong will, positive mind set and muscles works.

No pain, no gain. It’s so true. It’s like drinking water; until you savor it yourself, you won’t know if the water is cold, lukewarm or hot. Sense of achievement drives me to face difficulties and challenges with a positive mind set and attitude. Sherlock Holmes used to comment that solving a case itself was his reward. It’s better than any monetary reward or fame given by others. Sense of achievement comes within; it is generated without any invitation or asking for it comes from inside. Autonomy comes from passion, enthusiasm, and love of others.

What drives you to wake up, walk out your house, and walk in your workplace every morning? Paycheck? A place you feel you belong to? Tasks challenging enough for you to conquer? Doing a meaningful job? Teamwork that without others won’t work out? Sense of achievement? Or reasons only you know? There must be something keeps you doing the same thing again and again, day after day. Did you ever ask or find out what yours is or yours are?

Asking Questions makes me feel I am growing and living. Sense of achievement, though coming from hard work, allows me to sleep sound and well at night. If you want to know the connection between happiness and sense of achievement, try to do things differently at work or at any place you might influence others and others’ lives.

Good luck!

November Read/2

Title: Work Happy: What Great Bosses Know

Author: Geisler, Jill

Subjects: Executive ability; Supervision of employees; Management; Quality of work life

Call Number: 658.409 G313W 2012

ISBN: 9781455507436

Number of Pages: 350 p

Book Description:

            Management guru Jill Geisler provides a practical, step-by-step guide to achieving happy workplaces, based upon real-world experience, respected research, and lessons that will transform managers and their teams. Work Happy is a workshop in a book, designed to produce positive, immediate, and lasting results. The author offers concrete steps for improving each element of management, including collaboration, communication, conflict resolution, motivation, coaching, and feedback. Fifteen chapters offer new insights into the workplace, so that everyone on the team can be their best.

My Read:

            To me, management and leadership are about self growth and self development. And the application of the two not only enriches a person at self-actualization it also helps a person to create values for other people and touch people’s lives.

Ever since I got in touch books about these two field, Work Happy is one of the few books that truly intrigues me opening my eyes and mind. The way the author starts and ends the book is as if an explosion of a nuclear bomb: the breadth and expansion of a great boss’s impact and influence begin from the self, to the staff, then to the workplace. It’s as if the radiation of a great boss’s influence and greatness would go on and spread not only to the staff and the workplace but the impact would move on to and benefit the next generations.

            The Check Yourself exercises at each chapter ask to the point questions allowing readers to ponder upon and reflect what’s important about management and leadership. For instance at the Check Yourself: Assess Your Impact exercise I like the questions like: Do people come to you regularly and frequently with ideas or projects they’re developing rather than wait for instructions or permission? Do your employees tell you about people who’d be great potential employees? Do your staff members talk to you in terms of the whole organization? Do you hear your staff talking about values, and if so, do they speak of them as their own, not yours? Why? Those questions are good signs that a good management is indeed at practice.

            Personally I truly enjoy the part the author talked about “Motivation that Really Matters, Boss.” In the book, it stated there are several internal drives that people care about: competence, autonomy, purpose, and growth. They are from within, inside of a person; they are intrinsic. The author stated: Great bosses don’t motivate employees-they help employees motivate themselves. When employees have internal drives they are: self-starters, eager to do quality work, interested in solving problems, and passionate about their jobs, not just their paychecks. Though I appreciate the points the author stated I think it’s a person’s character and personality that play a crucial role at being a great employee, or even a great person. It comes from within, inside, internally.

            When a team shares a purpose or value, the spirit of teamwork drives the team and the teammates to success and greatness. Growth is up to a person’s will and determination. And autonomy could be spread; it’s contagious. Happiness comes from Sense of achievement. When a task is finished because a person feels it has to be done and does it without being asked, the sense of accomplishment would be automatically brought out. No need of someone to tell you a good job done. It’s from within.

            Work Happy is a tool and reference for every manager, current or aspiring. The cases, stories, and exercises the author shared with the readers are proving points at a real workplace. At least that’s what I have witnessed at my workplace.

           

References:

Good Boss, Bad Boss: How to Be the Best…and Learn from the Worst-Robert I. Sutton

Becoming a Manager: How New Managers Master the Challenges of Leadership-Linda A. Hill

Primal Leadership: Realizing the Power of Emotional Intelligence-Daniel Goleman, Richard Boyatzis, and Annie McKee

The Art of Framing: Mastering the Language of Leadership-Gail T. Fairhurst and Robert A. Sarr

Why We do What We Do: Understanding Self-Motivation—Edward L. Deci with Richard flaste

The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us-Daniel H. Pink

Intrinsic Motivation at Work: Building Energy and Commitment-Kenneth w. Thomas

Organizational Culture and Leadership-Egdar H. Schein

The Heart of Change-Real-Life Stories of How People Change Their Organizations-John Kotter and Dan S. Cohen

Executive EQ: Emotional Intelligence in Leadership and Organizations-Robert K. Cooper and Ayman Sawaf

46 Frogs: Tales of a Serial Prankster-James M. Naughton

Tea Time Outside the Library

     
     
     Instead of meeting at the library, this week's Tea Time was held at Genroku Restaurant located in Richardson. Thanks to the generosity of Ruby and Lily, Abby and I had a great time eating, talking, and simply having fun at the lunch table.

     Ruby asked about Sherri who was absent for the previous two Tea Time together. I shared Sherri's two emails and her whereabouts with the three of them. "Sherri missed you." We hope, next time when we meet each other, every member will show up.

     Then Lily asked about Fiona's current status. Again, I had to repeat the sad news about a family currently fighting a difficult battle and Fiona's generous assistance was the reason why she couldn't come to those meetings. Things happen in life. The more positive we become and deal with happenstances, the much stronger we would  become. A heavy shoulder would become lighter when load of work is shared. We might not be able to provide material or financial support directly or indirectly, our giving heart would still spill its positive impact on people in need of moral support.

     Today's meeting/lunch lasted more than 4 hours; it simply told us how much we enjoyed each other's company. It's a holiday season and it's time to share how much we enjoy living our lives. 

     Don't forget to prepare your due summary. It doesn't matter how short it would look like. The core and crucial of such demand is for you to keep on reading and build your reading habit. It would take at least 66 days to build and maintain a habit. The request of submitting a summary monthly serves as a positive and rewarding motivation for each member. Sharing is a means for a person to make a commitment. We like to hear what you have learned, how much you have progressed, and what a wonderful life a person can live and share with each other.

     Have a happy and wonderful Thanksgiving holiday and weekends.

     Look forward to seeing you next Wednesday. 

The Power of NOW

            “Why not I shelve it NOW?” This was what Jennifer told me as I was pushing two trucks out of the circulation area ready to be shelved. In my mind the following would be my tactics: I would shelve the nonfiction truck first then the second fiction truck would be my next target after I labeled it. Jennifer happened to come out from the staff working area and met me in the middle of the hallway. She saw the fiction truck at my right hand as I told her this would be it: the last ready truck to be shelved when labeled. She made a quick decision; instead of labeling and waiting Jennifer did it right then, right there. Guess what? Jennifer was exercising the power of now and had it into practice and action in no time. Based upon the quantity of books on that truck it would just take a person less than five minutes to accomplish the shelving task. Five minutes!

            Did you ever feel tired of incessant piling tasks or be dragged down by seemingly never ending jobs? One fact I have learned from working in the library is the books, DVDs, and CDs would never stop dropping in the return/book drop areas. It would become overwhelming and intimidating if one allows and lets the situations to consume your time, energy, or even your spirit unconsciously. It takes a healthy and good team’s work and efforts to target the tasks, if not beautifully, but gracefully with spent sweats and pants.

            I remember the first day I came back to work after a long vacation visiting my oversea family. Bad news was what I brought back from home. Yet, the sight of my teammates’ smiles and warm welcome hugs and taps on the shoulders I felt a kind of new force generated from inside of me. Instead of telling the bad news first, I asked for a status report (what’d happened and what’s happening) and where the library stood right now. After gathering the information I made a decision: ignored the doctor’s instructions and put myself in gear as if nothing had happened to my shoulder, my arm, and my hand.

            Once in a while, Lynette, my manager, would stop by the overnight drop chute and asked about my shoulder and arm’s condition. I told her I still have left hand to do my jobs. At hearing this, Lynette would wave her index finger and shake her head. From then on Lynette would empty the chute if she came first early in the morning. Together the both of us did the tasks.

A task shared became less tiring and easier. Do you know how that feels when you know there is someone willing to give you a hand without asked? Understood and loved!

            Whenever there were the two of us, Lynette and I, doing something together, I could almost feel there is a powerful force embracing me and something wonderful radiating from Lynette sweating and panting beside me. In return, Lynette’s presence would bring out undeniable positive energy and uplifting spirit from me. It’s so natural as if the force of gravity is replaced by something divine and sacred making me feel a sense of subliming and marvelous. The truth is I was feeling elevating and lightweight not just physically but mentally as well as spiritually. Empowered and heightened would be the condition to describe the sensation I was sensing and feeling.

            Facing a situation, condition, or under certain circumstances, a person’s instinctive response and primal decision, similar to the effect of a chain reaction, would make a big difference at the outcome and results. Take the example of the relationship between a seed and a tree. A strong and healthy tree comes from a solid and robust root that was grown from a tiny seed. Good seed (good in nature) is nurtured becoming a tall and well-grown tree with numerous branches and colorful leaves. The good would create and grow into greatness.

            What’s the power of now? Contrary to procrastination, a person’s strong will overcomes the weathered circumstances, or conditions. The mind set of “Do it now” empowers a person not only to do a job at hand right away but it might also bring out a person’s buried potential and hidden talents or gifts. Take the instance of Jennifer’s decision and action of shelving that fiction truck. What made her to act right away? It was based upon her past experiences: from the quick assessment of the books on that truck she knew it wouldn’t take more than five minutes to have it done. Why not now? This why not attitude challenged her and made her to take immediate action. The result? It’s very satisfying and productive.

            The power of now is no secret; it comes from a person’s attitude, mind set, will, plus cumulative experiences. Instead of waiting for someone to tell you what to do, you are your own conductor directing and leading your life at places you work, live, or visit.

The past is dust, spent and old, in the air, on the ground, settled and fixed. The future is whereabouts, unknown. Now is your life. Set! Ready! Action!

  

            

What Do You Want And Have?

            Last night I was among of many people sitting at a special meeting. Listened in and looked around the room I wondered what I have accomplished in the past five years working for the public library. Many questions swam in my mind as I watched and listened to Lynette giving a speech in front of the audience. Lights behind her though warm giving caused some difficulty for me to take good pictures of her. Well, it’s just like life: You might gain something. Still at the same time you lose something.

            Someone at the same meeting last night came to me and asked me a question: Why were you happy all the time? Every picture of you it seemed you smiled all the time.

“Well, it’s simple; because the library is my home and my playground.” It’s just that simple and straightforward. I used to call the library my playground. And it’s Lynette, my branch manager, gave me the idea that the library is “home.” It’s my home, indeed and Lynette is the parent/leader. Management has been her choice of career and love of her life.

            “The reason I like management is because I like to interact with people and to grow and develop people.” More than once, Lynette shared with me her love of management. It’s not an easy job for each and every person comes from different backgrounds with different concepts, ideas, and opinions about their lives. The fact that every soul is born with their unique characteristic and personality won’t make the job much easier either. But…

            “It’s rewarding.” Lynette went on. By coaching and mentoring a person to grow, develop, even to glow a manager grows at the same time. If you believe in that self-actualization and ability to give are the purposes and meanings of life then being a great boss definitely interprets well that belief. One’s own achievements might bring in joy and satisfaction at some point. But how deep and wide are those personal successes and accomplishments? Do you create values for other people, acquired as well as strangers? Do you truly touch people’s lives? And how?

            If you are good at math you can make a mental estimation. You grow a person and help that person promoted and moved up to certain position(s). This mentee of yours is going to do the same thing: to recognize other candidates at work or places she sets her foot in. Then the same process goes on. Now you have two and two spreads into four. Four becomes eight. The game keeps on and on. It’s like generations repeat themselves. It’s amazing, isn’t it? Somewhere in the world someone is doing the good deeds that you have faith in and advocate by cloning the process and efforts.

            Plenty of time I went home physically exhausted and starving. After treatment of a hot shower, some energy came back with promising ideas generated by the storming of hot water. It’s my time to regain energy of spirit. When the feeling was right, dancing sounds of keyboards stroking could be heard from my desk. Without struggle of thinking, I let my hands led by my mind and heart. Nonstop, I would finish what came to me without any break. It’s as if my hands knew what I want.

            What I want is pretty clear: I want to have a family at work.

I have a dream. I dream that one day when members, including me, “grow up” and are ready, they are going to spread the spirit of the family to places allowing them to make a difference, to create values for people they run into, and to touch people’s lives.

I have a dream. I dream people would become eager and honored to have my family members join their group, system, or organization.

I have a dream. I dream that the spirit of friendly good-fellowship of “my family” not only has impact on people but the influence and values my family has created would become contagious and pass along one generation after another.

I have a dream. I dream “my family” would one day become an exemplary branch in the city. Under Lynette’s excellent leadership and free style management, everyone is allowed to own the privilege and joy to be themselves. Unleashed, one’s ideas and proposals would be seriously put into consideration. Once the proposals and agendas are approved and accepted, Lynette would offer assistance, i.e. she would help decorate the auditorium, design and make copies of posters and flyers, do the needed marketing things; she even would fund a bit for your programs if there is an issue of sponsorship. Such freedom and privilege have to be earned though, in my own personal opinion. You have to make efforts and make the initiative move.

Do you have a dream or dreams? What do you want and have? It all originates from your heart. Find some times to listen to what your heart is telling and voicing. It’s never too late to make a difference in your life and others’.

Stop! Look! And listen!

Spirit of Friendly Good-Fellowship

             

            A scene and phenomenon taken place last Saturday at the library had my brain working hard to discover what it was and which English word, term, or phrase would be better and appropriate to describe what I witnessed. The word came to me last night as I was watching an episode of the TV series, NCIS Los Angeles. It’s the term Camaraderie. According to the definition given by an online dictionary, camaraderie is a spirit of friendly good-fellowship. An example is: There is great camaraderie among the teammates.            

Though we are not soldiers of any kind of army the spirit, based upon the given definition, is about right to interpret what happened on that day.       

            Delivery came early that Saturday morning. Jennifer and I got our hands busy digging out gems came from different branches to meet the needs of our patrons. My brain became racing and my hand was shaking at the sight of the book, one of the series on Gecko & Sticky by Ms. Van Draanen. “This must be the book Ruby reserved and waiting for.” I held the book up for Jennifer to take a good look. Abby who was busy checking in at the page area showed up at the corner of the hallway and strode to our direction.

            Abby’s facial expression was kind of interesting: a genuine smile decorated with expectation and excitement. She took away the book I was holding and exclaimed “It must be Ruby’s. I want to process the request right away.” Off Abby turned and went. Minutes passed. “Yes, it is!!!” No doubt from the high pitch of Abby’s voice and the undeniable excitement of hers told me that we just hit the bull’s eye.

            Human being’s emotions and feelings, though sometimes are of mystery and not easy to decipher or decode, are telling colors of what a person is or holds oneself. The more I work with Abby and Jennifer the more I have faith in what I believe: being able to give is indeed a good source and root of a person’s happiness and a growing soul. It’s an ability that a person is able to cultivate, develop, and grow. Yes, it’s ability.

            Considering the two worlds we are living in: material as well as spirit. When a person is strong and mature enough, s/he is able to open a saving account of her/his own. This account begins and represents a person’s independence, a dramatic milestone in a person’s life. One is able to put aside and save some money for the future need: get ready for a rainy day won’t hurt and will help a person to be proactive and prepared. This account is for the material world. Do you also include and open an account for the spirit world in which you are roaming at your waking hours though the world might be unseen and intangible? 

   

            There are many ways to save for your spirit’s account(s). One thing I have done when my child reached the age of owing a driver’s license was to open two accounts for them: one checking/debit account and one charity account. The formal account was to keep their allowance and let them develop and control their spending habit. It’s about time for the children to learn about the reality with real things. Then, every three months, a certain amount of money would be given to the second charity account. Sharing is a spirit and value I cherish being a human being. Luckily, without taught, my children were growing into giving souls. It’s a gift they brought into this world at their births. Being able to give is not just limited to offer materials; actually it all start with a giving heart and giving spirit. You are willing and able to give.

             The spirit of friendly good-fellowship, to me, comes as bonus and a reward earned by collaboration, hard work of teamwork, and shared values. Why was Abby excited at seeing, processing, and shelving that book for Ruby, a member of our WOW Reading Club? I understood. Why? Because when a person is able to feel what others are feeling under similar circumstances, conditions, or status the natural response or reaction is to walk the similar path, taste the similar spices, and feel the ups and downs of emotions and feelings.

            Did you ever see a picture of a group of creatures show the same facial expression at witnessing something or seeing something at the same time? It’s as if there are uniformed masks on their faces. It’s an interesting image, isn’t it?

Demonstration of empathy has the similar effect. Once a person has the ability to give, the brain would follow the heart doing good deeds to others. The magic wand is held at your hand. What kind of spirit is brewing in your mind, at your workplace, or at places matter to you? Show your hand!

It Paid Off!

            As competitive as I have been, Jennifer asked me about one of the books on the request list that both of us failed to find today before she called it a day. “I will give it another try before my shift is over tonight.” I told Jennifer that I wouldn’t give up too soon.

            The Spirit of Luck must have made a stop-by at the library today for I did locate the book at 7:55 pm, five minutes before we closed. The sight of it hidden behind books was a thrill; I almost could feel the joy generated by the eyes then the image was transmitted to my brain that distributed the excitement and happiness to the rest of my body. On the way back to the page working area to process the request I felt my body was five pounds lighter thinking of the increasing of deposits in my saving account called “sense of achievement.” It’s a joint account I have shared with Jennifer whose goals of serving better the patrons are a match of mine. Though Jennifer was around as it took place tonight the picture I took of the book would definitely make her day tomorrow as she comes back to work. Yeah!!

            How did I make it? The hunt and search of an item of interest start from the search of item record and the bibliography full display. The former one will tell a person when the last active day is and briefly tell the possible format of an item from the listed price. Further search of an item’s full display will tell some information about the dimension of a book, alternatives of author’s name and titles. The given picture attached to a book or a CD serves as a bonus catch. It would provide not only the cover of an item but also possible colors of a book’s spine.

            The book of interest of today is a holiday book. The dimension is 20 * 25 and the format is paperback. Earlier today, I searched all possible shelves: from holiday areas, to children’s paperback areas, children’s pictures book areas, and the usual nonfiction areas. The final search was focus on the holiday shelves. My tactics was quite simple when possible approaches failed: I turned every book to see its cover and to make sure there was no book hidden leaving behind. Right after I turned and looked at the sixth or seventh book, I spotted a small and thin book behind and sandwiched between books. Its back was facing me as if it was laughing at me by mooning. “Ha, got you!” The joy and thrill were spontaneous and instant.

            At each success of finding an item the message was clear and straightforward to me: it would make a person pleased that what s/he reserved was found. The patrons don’t have to learn about the detail of such search and hunt. Still, the search and hunt thrill me for it’s similar to a fine work of a diligent and determined inspector or detective. The arts of observation, analysis and deduction are put into practice and make things happen.

            Though a perfect score of filling every item on the request is not always the thrill of challenge and joy of meeting goals are drives Jennifer and I share. We learned from each other’s skills and experiences. The sense of partnership started at an unknown time yet its impact changed the way we dealt with things at hand. Positive thinking empowers us.

            The hard work just paid off!

            

Tea Time-November 14, 2012

            “Mei-Wan, I’ve learned a lot.” Looking up at me, Lily told me how she felt about the weekly Tea Time sessions and the monthly reading meetings. It’s a message and feedback I have been waiting for to measure the impact and influence the programs we have run in the library. Though still at early stages of a trial and error approach to programs I could think of and have run, the purpose of a public library and the meaning of a program are always the guidelines and directions for the librarians and the staff to ponder, designate, propose, prepare, and run any program, event, or session.

            Today’s Tea Time began with sharing what’s happened in each and every member’s life during the week. Lily shared a recent shopping experience. In her case, “What’s the deal?” would replace her long requesting question “How much do I have to spend during your promotion period to get the gifts listed on your ad?” In the Native’s eyes, such struggling and debating are non-existent. Yet it’s a daily battle for the English learners; what would be the right words, terms, or phrases to express or introduce myself and the ideas in my mind. “What’s the deal?” It seems like a simple expression to the local yet it would take years of studying, learning, and reading to be comfortable and good at interpreting things for the people whose native languages are not English.

            After taking turns sharing life events and experiences, the librarian presented today’s topic: Nature and its impact on a person’s life. Mei-Wan initiated the topic talking about things she learned from reading a book about journey of souls. It’s natural for a soul to learn things from his/her living environment. For instance, in the book, the author stated that a soul learns density from rocks, serenity from trees, freedom and beauty from butterflies, and immensity and power from whales. There was no further explanation in the book why those items are selected and meant for the indicated values. Yet, it’s a good start for the talking about life.

            Horses are love of Abby’s. Asked what she has learned from the creature and since when Abby stated: Since always. Probed why, Abby has her usual “matter of fact” facial expression to reinforce her point. Charming, Mei-Wan smiled and admired Abby’s stubbornness and consistency. “Movement” Abby finally pointed out the reasons why she likes horses the most. The horses move in a fast yet graceful pace. Their unique shape is pleasing and the coat of theirs can tell plenty about the condition of their health. Way to go, Abby. Thanks for sharing your love of life.

            “The sea, the ocean is my favorite” said Ruby. In Ruby’s eyes, the abyss of the salt waters is a mystery. The color blue, bottomless depth of the ocean represents life itself: constant changes are the norm of life. From the ocean, the members talked about weather, gravity, and the phenomenon of Tsunami. The sudden retreating and receding of the ocean waters and waves is a close call of warning that a threat of attack of Tsunami is impending and it’s time to go some place higher seeking shelter and some place safe. Lily mentioned about the recent hurricane sabotaging the Big Apple city, New York and wondered how the broadcast systems pick names for the natural disaster forces. “Google” was the answer from the librarian.

            “Rainbow means prettiness and miracle to me” said Lily when it’s her turn to share. “Incredible and unpredictable” are words from Abby to amplify Lily’s points. “Pot of gold, wonderful” is Abby’s terms to describe the beauty of a rainbow after a showing rain.

            Today’s goodies on the table: crackers, bagels, cheese cake Alpine style, spicy seaweed, and, of course, hot tea. Serving and chewing the snacks, Ruby showed us something that touched the librarian’s heart. Please see the attached picture. Not only did Ruby read the book three times to make sure that she totally comprehended what the book was about, she also wrote down all the vocabulary and terms unfamiliar to her. She did her homework and did so diligently, sincerely, and very seriously. Ruby even showed Abby how the electronic dictionary works after everyone read her notes. “Interesting!” The amazement came from Abby who was new to such gadget.

            “Wheedle” is another new word the members, including Mei-Wan learned today. Though the verb explains the act it still couldn’t match to the hidden behavioral and unique meaning and manner of the term used in the Chinese society and its culture background.

            We missed Sherri. She did send two emails to explain her two absences and wanted to tell the others how much she was missing them and would like to come next session when the time allows. Thanks Sherri and her email messages.

            Look forward to seeing you all next Wednesday!

              

Whispers of Trees

            At my lunch break, if weather allowed, I would have my warm lunch box with me and dine in my car at the library’s parking lot. After satisfying my hunger, I left my car, locked it and moved to the farthest corner of the parking lot to sit and do some arms exercise under shades of trees. Eyes closed, I relaxed myself and focused my attention to my two arms. At the same time, I reminded myself to breathe in the precious flowing fresh air not only through my nose but also to take in the air by my exposed skin cells.

            Today, as I walked to the my usual spot, I noticed the line of trees moving in colors of autumn as if groups of ancient beautiful ladies were dancing with their narrow and slender waists swinging back and forth along with the flow of winds blowing this way and that way taking turns to be in harmony with the beauties. As I watched I could feel my own neck and head moving sideways as if hypnotized to follow the gorgeous golden dancers. And don’t forget the delicate music played by the trees and winds.

            Calling it music for I truly was short of vocabulary to describe to what I was hearing and listening. If the waving and swinging of the trees with rich autumn colors was the feast for the eyes, then the whispers of trees were melody coming from paradise, a heaven lack of human’s activities. The rhythm made by trees caressing each other was simple yet appealing to my ears. Simplicity is the beauty of things important to a person.

            Today as I sat and felt the work of Nature on me a simple peace and calm came to me as the sound of people coming and going reminded me I am not living alone; no one is truly independent walking the roads of life. Complexity or simplicity, sometimes, is just a thought of a person’s own perspective. If anything I could have control of or be in charge of, it would how I think of this world. I, not you or others; I am the one responsible for and take the lead of my own life.

            Sometimes, I wondered as I sat at my usual spot where the winds come from; the mystery of their origin intrigued me. Then I saw farther by looking up at the immense of the sky and the moving clouds. The blowing winds are invisible yet seen by the movements of trees or should we say the trees’ leaves. Leaves?

            Then I found certain part of me awaken by the thoughts of winds, trees, and leaves. The whispers came from the leaves, not the trees themselves. Trees are trees: stern, stable, and solidly rooted underground. They were not moved at all; it’s the leaves who danced along the blowing of the winds. The trees stay calm and in peace.

            To me, trees represent serenity and a sense of evenness of mood. Leaves are like emotions, senses, and feelings. They could be moved or changed by stimulus from outside world. The interactions would cause noises and sounds, pleasant as well as unpleasant ones. If one’s mood is up it’s melody to our ears. It would be noisy if one’s mood is foul.

            Lessons I learned from the trees I watched and listened to were precious: don’t forget my root and the tree I have grown. I am a tree of my kind. What kind of music or melody I would like to listen to or play depends upon how I see, feel, or decipher things. Perspectives and thoughts are originated from the interaction I deal with people, things, or any circumstance. Solidly and sternly rooted where I stand I would know that the directions I walk, follow, and lead are full of hope, promise, and greatness.

            Nature is the best mentor a person should follow and listen to.